“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
Accepting what I cannot change
Do you ever feel, after watching the news, that the world is a sad, ugly place, full of violence and no so trustworthy people? I know I do. For a few minutes or so after seeing death, destruction, and some politicians lie through their teeth, I feel a bid down, disgruntled even, and then anxious because I feel perhaps, helpless towards those suffering war and famine. I want to help!
Smart move News Channel, but you can’t trick me!
My news station often puts a « feel good story » right at the end of their broadcast. I bet they do this so « news consumers » return the next night at 11. « They » want us to stay with what made us stay up to watch in the first place. Human love.
Interesting fact from my psychology 101 teacher. « We often remember the first and the last thing we see … anything else in the middle gets fuzzy » For example, try remembering this phone number, give yourself only 10 to 20 seconds or so, 450-475-4473 – Now close your eyes. What do you recall? Is it the 450 and the 473? Most of the middle fizzles out from our memories right. Notice this when you watch the news.. what do they put 1st and last?
Well, first things first, change the things I can :
For the past couple of weeks, i am participating in the 14 Gestures Of Love Challenge created by Monica Wilcox (you can read her post here). This has allowed me to « Accept the things I cannot change » yet, bring me back to my environment where I can make a little dent in the world’s woes. This challenge is about sending ripples of love and kindness to strangers (which I call love bombs), loved ones, Dr’s offices, police stations, mail carriers, friends, thus putting a smile on other’s faces, putting a huge smile on my own.
It doesn’t take much
A smile, a hug, homemade baked goods. A card left on a windshield, a chocolate, a phone call, a love note and maybe a coffee to warm up the person behind you. Give your spot on the train, let those waiting in line, go ahead in the check out lane, help someone carry their bags… The possibilities of giving out kindness are endless, and most of them cost a few minutes of your time.
Up to this point, I have never felt happier than I have felt in a long time. I have a daily mission : To give out 1 act of kindness a day for 14 days. It ends up that at the end of the day, I have done plenty more than just 1. It is selfish too, I do it because it feels good to make someone feel good. When that person feels good, they are more likely to me nice to the next person and so on… sending ripples of kindness outwards in my town, reading the next town, and maybe even the other side of the world.
The possibilities are endless don’t ya’ think?
I do not feel dread any more, if I happen to catch the news at 6, because I know my little part of the world is a kind and loving place. Oh.. yes, people are suffering, the poor are poorer, and there are still homeless people living in the street. This, unfortunately, I cannot change directly, however, lets just think a little: If everyone, everyday were kinder, gentler, more loving and generous… maybe just maybe… that will reach the homeless man on the street, and change his life forever.
“As we work to create light for others, we naturally light our own way.”
― Mary Anne Radmacher
Maybe just maybe, some school kids will catch on (and it has been done) and send encouraging letters to children in war torn countries or a home for the elderly, cheering up the most lonely. Maybe just maybe, someone will pay for that single mom’s groceries, and maybe just maybe that will allow her to be stress free, and be kinder to her own children.
Lets have the wisdom to know the difference
The last thing I think of before I go to bed, is not what awful news I saw on T.V. that day, I am reminded of the feeling I had when I love-bombed a stranger early in the morning. When asked, the members of the 14 Gestures Of Love Facebook group : How do you feel after all these gestures of love?
In one word they stated : Grateful, abundant, excited, happy and beaming.
You too can feel all the above. It starts with 1 gesture of thoughtfulness, 2 acts of kindness, and 3 bombs of love… Multiply that by each and every one of you.