“The most adventurous journey to embark on; is the journey to yourself, the most exciting thing to discover; is who you really are, the most treasured pieces that you can find; are all the pieces of you, the most special portrait you can recognize; is the portrait of your soul.” ― C. JoyBell C.
Friendship, we usually think of it as a relationship with someone else. It seems we hardly think of ourselves as our own friend. We have friends, we make friends, we can be good friends; are we good friends with ourselves?
Learning to be your own best friend is paramount to well-being. Many times we lose sight of who we are in relation to ourselves. Think about the last time you did something just for you? When was the last time you were a good friend to yourself? I am sure you can remember the last thing you did for a friend. Neglecting ourselves and not befriending ourselves is detrimental not only to our health, but to our psyche.
I wasn’t always my own best friend, I resided in the role of my own worst enemy. I have come a long way from those days, however, they do creep in and I neglect the friendship I have with myself.
It doesn’t take much to treat yourself better, in fact, some of these things I’ve listed are so simple. Yet, they go a long way towards being a better friend, to YOU. Here are just a few things I do to befriend myself on a regular basis. They definitely resemble a self-care checklist, valuable in so many ways.
1. Take yourself out for a meal. I remember turning 30 and making it a goal to enjoy dinner alone.
Learning to enjoy your own company is essential. If you don’t like your own company you will end up conveying this. It doesn’t have to start out as dinner. I take myself to brunch by myself sometimes. There are the occasional lunches and dinners too. You can bring a prop such as a good book, a magazine, or you can just sit and people watch. It makes for great entertainment.
2. Pamper yourself. Regular manicures and pedicures feel great and you look great.
For a long time this was a regular practice. When I stopped, I realized I missed it for me. Not because I was dating anyone, I love the way my toes look when they are well manicured, hands too. Go for it. Try a color you wouldn’t normally do, try it on your toes. I love the color I chose this week, OPI’s Peace and Love, of course. It’s not my normal shade and I am loving the change.
3. Carve out an hour on the weekend to read your favorite author.
Not a reader, magazines make a great alternative. Put on the kettle to make a cup of your favorite tea, prop up those newly done toes and dive into your favorite reading material. An hour does seem like a lot doesn’t it? Your best friend, aka, YOU are worth it. Take it!!
4. Create ritual.
Every Sunday evening I treat myself to a facial. I do a mask or a peel, slather on the cream and slip into a very hot bubble bath. I light candles, put on my favorite music and just chill. It is a great way to get ready for the week. Any ritual you choose, it’s up to you, just choose.
These are just a short list review of some of the things I do just for me. They may seem a bit silly, nonetheless, they are valuable to me. Create your own list, a self-care toolbox if you will. A friendship doctrine that is all about you.
Being your own best friend is rejuvenating to the soul.
Self esteem rises, relationships with others improve and you achieve an overall sense of well-being. Why not try becoming your best friend, you might surprise yourself and discover things about yourself you never knew before…
Caren Schmidt is a Certified Holistic Health Coach and Life Strategist with a passion for helping women achieve a joyful life. A spiritual seeker who describes herself as “a late bloomer”, having only discovered her spiritual self in the last ten years. Caren practices a holistic approach with a focus on the mind-body connection; and believes everyone should make self care a priority.
Born and raised in Texas, Caren describes herself as a non-traditionalist. Learning her own core values at a young age and then taking them with her along her journey has made her who she is today. Caren always knew she wanted to be a writer, writing short stories and poetry since high school. She shelved her dream when she entered the workforce. Since then, Caren has written several blogs and is working on her book, You Have Such a Pretty Face…..If You’d Just Lose the Weight.
She is a supporter of the empowerment of women, working with them to find their own voice and teaching them to step into their higher self. Caren focuses on body image coaching and life strategies. Her background in wellness is always at the foundation of her coaching. Caren believes that when you nourish your body, you nourish your mind.
Caren lives in Arizona with her Rat Terrier, Harley. Her desert lifestyle is a far cry from the concrete jungle of San Francisco, the most recent place she called home. She is learning to navigate the suburban lifestyle with her city mentality. After all, Caren believes, it’s just part of the journey….