Loving My Mistakes – Day 39 – #40DaysofSelfLove

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“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” 
― Paulo CoelhoBrida

Face it, we are all going to screw up every once in a while. We are going to say something completely ridiculous at the wrong time, sending our friend into a frenzy. We will mess up a recipe, drop a glass, paint the wrong color, write the worst letter, or even eat the last piece of chocolate in a house full of women.

I do not think the last one is forgivable? … or is it?

Seriously, there will be times when mess ups happen, and what do we do then? What do you do when your best friend is mad at you for a slip of the tongue?

Love yourself!

This is the best time to take inventory and send yourself some love. Assess the situation and apologize. Sincerely apologize to your friend, and then:

“Forgive yourself for thinking you did anything wrong”!

Mishaps happen, and I know I am (or used to be) very hard on myself when something goes wrong because of something I said or did. Last year I made a pasta salad which turned out to be disgusting. I started berating myself for throwing it out, and wasting food. Then, I took a step back and gave myself a big hug for even trying, for being creative, and allowing myself to take risks.

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.” 
― Mahatma Gandhi

Can’t stop myself from trying new things.

Obviously I never tried this recipe again,  yet I am still going to find new ones…

My point is: Self-love in a world which is sometimes filled with people who hate on each other, is a challenge thus, I will continue past the 40 Days asking myself in the moment “What do I need to feel ok?” . I do not want to revert back to the woman who, just a year ago, could not even look at herself in the mirror, or get mad at herself for dropping her favorite plate. No. Plates can be replaced, but the pain after the self-bullying includes a long road of healing.

I want to love my mistakes along with the rest of my accomplishments.

It is in making those errors of judgement which we learn to cope better moving forward. It is the wrong turn one makes, which, if carefully pondered upon, will help us take the “other way” to happiness. And honestly, who said it was the “wrong turn” anyhow? Have you ever gotten lost on a trip, only to find new things to see?  Or avoided a long road of traffic? Going in the wrong direction, at times, can be a miracle. I’ve seen some amazing scenery while lost… 🙂

10-happiness-mistakes“If we thought rain was Mother Nature’s mistake on the day we were supposed to have a pic-nic, then there wouldn’t be any rain to dance in.”  ~Kim Larocque 

It is all in the way you see it.

Happiness is not a destination, it is a way of being. I cannot be happy if I am constantly mad at myself. Loving myself includes this understanding. No way is the wrong way… all paths lead to where we want to go.. if we are truly aware of what is going on.

Today, day 39 of 40, I am going to love my shortcomings, my screw ups and my mistakes… and in turn, if I know better, I will do better..

Deal?

“I am glad that I paid so little attention to good advice; had I abided by it I might have been saved from some of my most valuable mistakes.” 
― Edna St. Vincent Millay

Read Mohini’s journey here

10 Comments

  1. Hooray for you Kim! When I get too upset at a mistake I’ve made, I remember what my grandfather used to say, “ninety nine years from now you won’t know the difference.” Most of our mistakes are so trivial when we can really look at them objectively. I am finally learning that I don’t care if I’m perfect anymore. I can now accept that I’m far from it and that’s ok.

  2. Kim! What a wonderful flashbackforward!!! 😀

  3. Yeah for all of the mistakes we’ve ever made and moving forward in spite of them!!!!

  4. I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you!

    The best love is the love we give ourselves. There are no mistakes, only lessons. We get to choose how we think, speak and act when we are dealing with ourselves and others. We are only human… never perfect… always learning each and every day. You are AMAZING! Choose to be happy, choose to continue your journey, choose to grow! All is and will be well.

    I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you!

    YOU are loved. ♥

  5. Thank goodness for mistakes, Kim!
    Being of the mind of having made some, set me on this journey… and how thankful for such mistakes I am now!

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