*originally posted in June 2013*
I have been on a healing journey for just over 2 years. It is amazing how, in 21 days (of the self-love challenge, I am feeling the guilt for taking care of myself melt away from my brain like the wax from a burning candle.
Tracie Nichols (who is also doing the challenge) said it quite eloquently in one of her posts: We are noticing and we are loving.
She states: “No matter what I DO over these 40 days, I’m guessing it’s the noticing … loving pattern that’s the real gift.”
Yes! A true gift. Then I came to think, to notice the patterns I also have to look at one pattern which keeps some of the wax from melting: “putting things off”. Now, I have to say I do not call myself a procrastinator anymore. I hate labels. Yet, I tend to leave things for later.. things I know would ease the worry if I just picked up the phone and made that call.
“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.”
―Stephen R. Covey
The late Stephen Covey, in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, says that one important thing to help ease the stress from the back of our minds is to do those “little tasks” we were “meaning to do”. He concluded, that doing these little things i.e. Fixing the leaky faucet, tightening that bolt on the door that has rattled for weeks, or just making that “dreaded” dr’s appointment, would ease our worry levels 10 fold.
We notice these things every day. “Oh I have to make that call!” and it is those little things which clutter our self-loving mind. Today, as a self-loving act and ritual, I am going to make a list of few things which have nagged my mind and need to be tended to. BUT!! I am not going to put pressure to do them all at once.
Just writing them down, and putting the list somewhere I can see is enough. Then, I will make a commitment to myself to do at least 1 or 2 a day over the next week. Maybe I’ll do less, maybe I’ll do more, however, crossing them off will feel “oh so yummy” and I will have succeeded on finding the “right timing” for achieving these small tasks without blaming myself for the ones that I didn’t do right away.
One thing “atta” time…
Yes.. noticing —-> loving…
Today, I take the time to work through what needs to be done, so I can be free of mind chatter.
No more calling myself a procrastinator…. I am allowed to take my time, yet also notice what needs to be done, and do them lovingly.
“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.”