Lessons From My Father by M’chele Johnson

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“I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.”  ~ Umberto Eco, Foucault’s Pendulum

I was folding laundry, listening to Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday interview with Miguel Angel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. He was so charming and humble, and when I glanced at the television screen, I had a laugh out loud moment, because his interview was subtitled! I guess the producers felt his Mexican accent was too difficult for viewers to understand otherwise.

The reason I found this funny was because my father had an even thicker accent, yet he never had a problem making himself understood. It is times like these when I miss him most, (deceased now 15 years).  I believe it is the little things like that which identify our humanity and make us memorable to others.

My father was a hard working man who gave his children a strong work ethic, which we, in turn, have passed on to our kids.

“The monsters are gone.”
“Really?” Doubtful.
“I killed the monsters. That’s what fathers do.” 
― Fiona Wallace

For an ‘uneducated’ man (schoolwise), he had a wisdom that surpassed knowledge and a wicked sense  of humor- which he also passed on to his kids…and we, in turn, have now passed this on to ours, as well. (Apologies in advance if you run into any of us in the real world. You have been warned)

While life was not always easy being raised a girl by strict, old-fashioned, Mexican parents, it did offer some life lessons that could not have been learned any other way.

Here are some of my father’s favorite gems:

  • ~ Ask me no questions, I’ll tell you no lies
  • ~ There is a time for everything
  • ~ I am always right, even if I am wrong, I am right
  • ~ Money follows money
  • ~ The grass is NOT always greener on the other side
  • ~ Life isn’t fair
  • ~  Let your conscience be your guide  (as long as it was what his conscience wanted, we were ok)
  • ~ The good Lord giveth, and the good Lord taketh away

So what would I tell him if he was here with me now?

I would start with, Dad, (aka, Ruben, Mr Ruben, or Don Ruven),
Happy Father’s Day
I’ve missed you….
and you were right… about everything


A little about M’chele 

M’chele Johnson is witty, warm, and wise spirit with great sense of humor.  This is her debut here at MITV, so please give M’chele a warm welcome.

She lives in California, with her boys and hubby where the sun is always on the menu!



  1. Such a lovely post! I lost my dad nine years ago and miss him so much. Much love to you and good memories on Father’s Day.

  2. Thanks for this post M’chele. I am sad to hear you’ve lost your father. My Dad’s going to be 84 in a few weeks and I’m enjoying every second that I spend with him. All the best to you and your family! xxx

    • Thank you, Catherine.
      Please give your dad an extra hug from those, like me who are unable to. Blessings. ~M

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