Taking Compassion Up a Notch – Helping When Help is Needed


“I don’t want to live in the kind of world where we don’t look out for each other. Not just the people that are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I cant change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.” 
― Charles de Lint

I don’t know about you however, I do not like the way things are going now with some aspects of our society. I see neglect, violence, disrespect, negativity, drama.. You name it .. there is so much of it! All my life, I’ve been pretty good at keeping an open mind, seeing the best in others, and even defending the “not so liked person in the office”. I have had my share growing up of bullying.. meaning I’ve been bullied, and yes.. I bullied once and I am not proud of it.

Self-help gurus often say: Picture the world you want to live in, it will manifest!

I do see the beauty in everything, I know many of us do, yet there are things I cannot close my eyes to: Violence, inequality, bigotry, war, generically modified foods, unkindness, torture, abuse, poverty. I also cannot ignore these things are happening in the world either. We need, as a collective, to really become aware without losing ground.


I stopped watching mainstream news, and find my news from other sources. I try to sift the truth from untruths, and really take everything with a grain of salt! I hate the words “conspiracy theorists” because it seems that every time someone questions something.. they are labeled just that! Well call me a conspiracy theorist please.. because YES I question.

Every single topic above I could blog about for hours. I could be saying how appalled I am about the way our leaders are handling things. I can write about voting, electing, and how I feel I cannot find one person I trust to vote for anymore. I can talk about ways to help the poor, or women and abuse. These topics have weighed heavily on my mind, yet I feel so helpless at times because just when I think we are breaking ground, something like this Friday night happens.

Change begins with us, we need to stop waiting for “them” to lead and lead ourselves. 

To make a long story short, my daughter and I took the dog out late, we stayed on our lawn while the dog did his thing. Then suddenly, out of the corner of our eyes, we can see a group of 18 to 22 year olds (approx) gathered in front of the local bar yelling. Then, as they moved from the bar’s parking lot to the street, we saw a girl SLAM another girl onto the wet pavement. As she fell you can hear a “thump” at the same time, an SUV stopped right in front of them avoiding an accident.

help-others“Doing nothing for others is the undoing of ourselves.” 
― Horace Mann

At first, my daughter and I thought the girls were fooling around, yet as one of them slammed into the street, we realized this was a fight. A few seconds into the fight a guy came up and kicked the girl, then another girl starting kicking the victim. We think they were about 3 or 4 on 1 girl. It was about this time I started yelling “STOP! STOP! LEAVE HER ALONE!” Then directed my eyes at a young “cowardly” yet well-built young teen who had his iPhone right up there filming and laughing. I yelled at him: “Help her!! Stop filming and start helping her!” He looked at me and said “I aint’ helping SHIT!”

At that moment I started walking towards the fight. I was pumped I really felt I could save the girl (adrenaline you know), yet my daughter said “Mom don’t go!” out of fear of me getting hurt. Yet I was compelled to go, this was instinctive. By the time I got a bit closer, someone broke up the fight and the girl ran away… So did the guy beating her! 10 minutes or so later, when all was calm, the police come and went!

While all this was happening, everyone was just standing there.. watching.. filming.. laughing..

  1. There was a man across the street in a white car… he watched.
  2. The person in the SUV… never got out of his car.
  3. The people from the bar.. they stayed in.

I found these headlines on Google:  


I was appalled.. I was angry and the only thought that ran through my mind, at the time was walking into that bar and giving them a piece of my mind! I wanted to take the young guys cell phone and SMASH it to the ground. He doesn’t deserve to own a cellphone. He didn’t call 911 with it.. He was too busy filming a young woman being assaulted.

When I got home, I was so angry, I started venting about how the world is “effed up” and how this generation is so self-centered it is not healthy. Then I calmed down, and really deeply thought about how helpless I really felt.. How helpless my daughter felt..

peace-sign-2006-budapestI cried…

This girl, she was me. She is you. She is your daughter, your mother, your sister. She is your brother, your friend, your husband. No matter what the story was behind the situation, no one, yet no one should stand by and watch someone get a beating.

I felt like I was witnessing a stoning, or a witch being burned at the stake! We are 2013 and the fun is in the beatings?

Time to step up to the plate!

If things are to change, yes we need to view our world as loving and kind, yet we also need to be loving and kind. We need to spread compassion, as compassion has a ripple effect. We need to help each other, and NOT turn a blind eye.. We need to stop living in a tunnel and see what is happening in our peripheral vision.

And… we need to put down our phones… and pick up the slack!

“Never underestimate the difference YOU can make in the lives of others. Step forward, reach out and help. This week reach to someone that might need a lift” 
― Pablo

Lets go.. let’s do it Lets be the Compassion we want to see in the world!

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  1. Right there with you. You were very brave to walk up to them. It is so sad how violence is regarded as a spectator sport these days. It makes me sick. You are teaching your daughter wonderful values and how to help in this world. Good for you!!

  2. I wrote a long comment and then my computer froze up. LOL so here it goes.

    I am just happy you and your daughter didn’t get hurt because sometimes when people try to help these angry situations, they get hurt or even killed.

    It seems like society is out of control. Here in B.C. we have a huge drug problem. This past weekend another teen died from “bad street drugs”.

    So, I totally agree that it begins with us! Compassion and loving and being kind to each other is the order of the day!

    luv u xoxo

    • Kim

      August 5, 2013 at 11:38 pm

      I really cannot stand to be silent anymore. Friday night proved to me that I can speak up LOUD and clear!

      Love to you Catherine!

  3. Amen sister! I’m there with you. Peace, love and understanding only work if we’re willing to speak out, stand up, and stand strong.

    (And, I’m so sorry to hear what you and your daughter had to witness….)

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