40 Days and 40 Nights – A Celebration #40DaysofSelfLove

self love challenge 40

“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.” 
― Diane Von Furstenberg

DAY 40!!

Wow, can you believe we are at the end of the challenge already?  It seems to me I just started on this journey with no agenda, and no plan, I had one goal: to love myself like I love my children.  This may be the end of the challenge, yet it is the beginning of my new way of being.

On day 1, I started looking at the naked truth by….  ‘basking in front of the mirror, naked, untouched, unbrushed, right before my shower, and really look at the beautiful curves of my body.. Examine the shape of my breasts, and send love to the temple which houses my spirit.’ What an amazing start! While really putting myself in a situation which I tend to avoid (standing in front of the mirror) I opened up the process with open arms.

I can honestly say, I do not avoid my reflection anymore.. And if I do catch myself on an “off day” I smile and remind myself how beautiful I am inside and out.

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” 
― C.G. Jung

The days which followed the first, were one miracle after another. I am actually falling deeply in love with myself, and will continue self-love and self-care practices as time goes on. I still have ways to go, yet this challenge allowed me to flow like a river towards the sea. I know I am part of something huge… and I am heading right towards it.. I may even be there already.

What am I taking with me from this challenge? Everything!

I  packed my bag, and this “baggage” is not full of self-hate, negative experiences nor drama. This baggage is very light compared to what I have carried in the past, and my suitcase stays with me, easy access, easy love.

Most people think, as women (and men too) we must put ourselves last to be loveable. We must put our children first, our spouse ahead, and serve other’s needs before we nurture our own.  On day 32 I wrote in Turning Selfless into Selfmore:

“If I want to attract love.. I need to become love.

Much better choice!  Complete abandon to this new way of being… I am reaping the benefits already going from “selfless” to “selfmore”!”

kim get groundedThe more fresh oxygen I breathe the more life I have to give to others.

This is powerful for me. I never understood it completely until I did this challenge. My children are much happier today, than 40 days ago! They see a woman who is taking care of her inner self and now her outer self. Just a few touches of nail polish, and pretty clothes, instead of the sweats and bushy hair.

They see, that even though their mother is still agoraphobe, she tries every single day to get out there and walk as far as she can. They see a mom following her passion of writing, drawing and taking pictures. They see a lady full of hope and desire to live life to its fullest.. even with the limited resources we now have.

They see a woman who is grounded, more relaxed and aware. My children are a reflection of me, and I am a reflection of them, so if we are in this together, lets live mindfully…

This, is changing the world… one person at a time.

It is a ripple effect.. take care of you first, and the world around you will change.

Thank you for following me on this journey, and continue to return to my blog. I was loving this daily post ritual, so I may continue.. Maybe not always about self-love .. but close.. very close.

Love and blessings.


“We do not see the world through a window, but through a mirror. Everything we discern is comparatively held to the vision with which we see ourselves.” 
― LeeAnn Taylo


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  1. You give my heart words to tell my mind, Kim… and then my mind knows what to say!
    Muse, Namastey!

  2. Kim, as you close this Door of Achievements Accomplished the next Door of Achievements awaits you with open arms and enough self-love to soothe even the most fragile soul. For now, you have discovered what true self-love can feel like.

    Always remember the airplane rule of life. If the plane is going down, the pilot requests that Mothers put the oxygen on them first so they may be strong enough to help their children when they need it.


    • Kim

      July 17, 2013 at 3:05 pm

      Exactly Laura!!

      Best advice I heard on Oprah years and years ago!!

      Love you!

      • Love you too Kim and right back at you my friend. Congratulations on sticking with it and getting the final one done, without regrets. Just self-love.

  3. How fabulous, Kim!!! I’m delighted for YOU that you will be taking this forward and doing more of it! If ever you need reminding, you have 40 days of blog posts to look back on and all of those who joined you will happily give you a gentle reminder if you ask. You are truly AMAZING!! What an INspiration! Fabulous! 😀 ♥

  4. You have travelled deep into the depths of my heart, love you Kim xoxo

  5. Congratulations, Kim! I have followed your amazing and brave story, although I haven’t always left a comment, I was always here.
    I hope you continue along the road of self love – there is always something new to learn and challenges about ourselves that come out of left field.
    You have many friends who love you – apart from your family of course – so I hope you feel loved by us.
    Hemmie <3

    • Kim

      July 17, 2013 at 12:32 pm


      Thank you so much. I feel your love and the love around me. Even on the more challenging days.

      I take every step now knowing I have many friends like you from far and wide.. it is a beautiful feeling to be loved and to let love in.

      I love you Hemmie too.. very much.

      You are an inspiration.


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