Simply Simplicity – Day 31 – #40DaysofSelfLove

“Every day offers us simple gifts when we are willing to search our hearts for the place that’s right for each of us. (January 15)” ― Sarah BreathnachSimple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy

I was not sure what I was going to write today, and then the word “simplicity” came to mind. I looked up it’s definition simplicity means:

  • The quality or condition of being easy to understand or do.
  • The quality or condition of being plain or natural. (Google)

Then it got me to thinking: Self-Love or anything else pertaining to growth of the human spirit does not need to be difficult. I mean, yes, there are challenges and “hard times” yet, the act of self-love, must come in simple form.

At least for me.

I do not think I could have been consistently loving myself if it was a complicated task. Challenging at times? Yes (this is why we call it the 40 day challenge) however, I am the one who has to come up with ways to show love, respect, and honor, understanding, forgiveness,  and compassion to my loving spirit, thus, all these I believe, can miraculously come to me like a cool breeze on a spring day.

I mean who wants to go out and invent the next “self-loving” machine? Or create a math equation on how to love oneself? I don’t. If it ain’t easy peasy…

How to create easy-peasyness

First, when I started the challenge, I thought about how easy it is to love my children. I mean, it comes naturally, there is no set way to love my FrootLoops, the love has been there since they were conceived. Then thought:

“I wouldn’t give my children a hard time to love them. They don’t have to do anything or prove to me they are “deserving” of my love? “


That is when I started to love myself like I love my own children. I thought of ways I show my love to my kids, and began slowly showing myself the same things. ie. Pride, compassion, care, nurturing, understanding, forgiveness… Just the act of giving myself a bath is self-loving, or cooking myself my favorite meal, or saying: “Hey Kim, you seem tired, go lie down a bit”….

Not hard?

Well it can be at the beginning when one is not used to it. However, as I progress in this challenge napping, eating, bathing, pampering are becoming simple acts of kindness towards me.

In my FB news feed yesterday, a single mother was thinking how “pathetic” it was that she stayed in her p.j.’s all day, watched movies and lazed around. I was really angered she thought that of herself. I mean, she works hard, plays hard, takes care of her child, why is it “pathetic” she take “me time”? This is guilt.. I’ve felt that guilt.. but NO MORE. When I want a “do nothing” day, I take it! If I need a “do nothing” week I take it.. If I need to de-clutter I do it.. If I need to listen to music .. music goes on.

daiisyA moment in time!

When I decided I wanted to change my life where self-berating does not exist anymore, I vowed to myself I would achieve this. I mean, I am 47 years old, I don’t want loving myself to be hard anymore.

If I want to attract love.. I need to become love.

Becoming love, starts from the inside out..

All I needed is to take 1 simple baby step at a time.

“The point of simple living, for me has got to be:

  • A soft place to land
  • A wide margin of error
  • Room to breathe
  • Lots of places to find baseline happiness in each and every day” ― Leo Babauta



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  1. Ah! Peace….
    Just being, Kim!

  2. Thank you so much for all of your loving energy sent this way! Motto for today, like you’ve written is ” if I want to attract love, I need to become love” xoxo

    • Kim

      July 8, 2013 at 12:20 pm

      Yay!! Catherine, I think of you very often. Please, if ever you wanna chat, if I am online, I would be happy to .. I could use a friend too <3

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