#40DaysofLove – Day 4 – Mirroring Each Other’s Love

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Art by Sunny Carvalho

“A fine glass vase goes from treasure to trash, the moment it is broken. Fortunately, something else happens to you and me. Pick up your pieces. Then, help me gather mine.” 
― Vera NazarianThe Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration

Setting a daily intention to give myself unconditional love, is much different than just saying to myself “I’m going to love myself more”. What I am discovering while into day 4 of this challenge, is when I plan a snickerdoodle of love for me, it comes easily, it is not forced, nor coerced, it just happens. It is such a good feeling for my inner child to feel the love I have for her, she, in turn is trusting I am there when she needs me. A cherished feeling I want to hold onto for a very long time.

I was born loved, and I will die loved. I but somewhere between being born and the rest of my life, I began to believe what other’s were mirroring.. that mirror became my story.

  • You are unworthy of attention
  • You are not enough
  • You need to be fixed

So I did everything to get your attention, I made my life a living hell because somewhere along the way, I believed what every single nasty slur, every negative vibe, every stinking word everyone said. For some reason, I lost the ability to hear and absorb words of love.

One of the most loving actions I have given myself in this past year, is surrounding my spirit with amazing peeps. Those who cheer me on, even when my days are more than yucky. I have friends now who totally understand when I say “No I cannot go today, my anxiety is too high”. They do not hang up angry, usually they say “I’ll call you again tomorrow, and depending how you feel, maybe we will do such and such”..  Holy cow!

Hey what a change! I am seen… I am heard.. and I am validated!

40 days of self love day 4

Tracie Nichols (whom inspired me to do this challenge) states in yesterday’s blog post :

“We’re all in this together. None of us are alone.”

No more judgements!

We are surrounded by people who love themselves. 

In turn, the mirrors around me reflect how much I love myself.

So today, I will make it a point to seek out those who mirror love, and give them a huge smile, and if this person is sad I will still send them a huge smile. Why not? It is a self-loving thing to smile after all.


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  1. We are love mirrors!

  2. Smiling makes us feel better! Even if I’m not really feeling like smiling, I try to smile and it brightens up my day! Thanks for your wonderful posts on loving ourselves! xoxo

  3. Kim

    June 11, 2013 at 12:01 pm

    My little girl is beginning to see that my promises are set in stone. That I listen to her when she needs to write, color or play. That I comfort her when she needs to cry… No more hiding her in a closet!

    Namaste to you too Claire. I am so happy we are doing this together. 🙂

  4. Love today’s…love.
    I also loved Tracie Nichols quote from yesterday…

    Your first paragraph brought tears to my eyes…that you are able to be in touch with that little girl and love her and that she knows trust is the place where all my difficulty begins.
    Thank you…I think I know what my today’s challenge will be. It’s like piling building blocks one on top of another..and when he fall..we just go back and restack them one by one.

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