“Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.
For the psychologist Carl Jung, building a house was a symbol of building a self. In his autobiographical Memories, Dreams, Reflections, Jung described the gradual evolution of his home on Lake Zurich. Jung spent more than thirty years building this castle-like structure, and he believed that the towers and annexes represented his psyche. In my post, Dreams Guide you Home, I explain the meaning of some House Dreams, and how you can look into different rooms to discover often hidden aspects of ourselves. In today’s post, Alison Evans describes her dream in her neighbors mansion. She doesn’t feel quite alone there, and there is so much to discover.
I feel this dream is one part quite symbolic and on the other hand, there is some “woo-woo” going on. Take a look:
What I remember is my dream starts with me being inside my neighbour’s house – but the owner isn’t the neighbour it’s some older relative. When I go in its surprisingly huge, not at all something that would fit into the exterior. There’s a huge entry hall (like the kind in the Sound of Music that you’d have a palace ball in). There are staircases and rooms off an upper hall and the owner is telling me about the history, the people who have visited over the years etc. There may even have been a very large indoor pool off the formal public hall. There are people there although there is nothing organized going on. I seem very interested in the history, and very at ease as well. I’m enjoying the stories and looking around.
Then I’m telling my daughter about the house and how it is completely different on the inside than I’d expect from the outside, about its age and history, people who have visited. At this point a random thought that there are likely friendly ghosts there because of the age of the home. Friendly because the people who live there are friendly and have never complained about being bothered.
Then the dream jumps to me staying at the house overnight. I’m hoping I’m not bothered by any ghosts or spirits, but sort of expect it too. I remember feeling as if I’m readying myself for it. hen I’m visited. It doesn’t seem too bad, but there’s pressure on the sheets I feel, but I don’t open my eyes. I’m scared but not freaking out and I’m forceful in saying get off, get out of the bed, stop it. It takes awhile for me to find my voice to say it…I’m not sure if it’s being said in my head or if I’m speaking, but this issue of not being able to get the words out is there. Again not scared more like freshly awakened and needed time to formulate the thought. I’m not screaming either, just saying it in a no-nonsense way. Once I actually say it in the dream (a few times) the pressure is off the bed and I know it’s ok to open my eyes.
Then I wake up in the dream and go to use the washroom down a long hall. I think I see someone else staying in the house – but it’s not the owner it’s a friend of mine (Carolyn) completely unrelated to anything else in the dream. It’s like we’re travelling together and stayed there or something.
Then I woke up for real…I slept on the couch last night, I was rolled up in the blanket, and I definitely needed to use the washroom. I am taking a weekend trip with my friend Carolyn Nov 30 – Dec 3. The house next door is lived in by the owners grandson and his wife and child. It’s been in the family forever and was originally owned by the owner’s mother. Built in the 1920’s.
It was weird and somewhat scary, but I felt in control at the same time. So there you have it…what do you think?
What I know about house dreams, Alison, is that houses often represent ourselves, the rooms, mystery rooms, staircases and hallways often represent different aspects of ourselves, like little “memory banks” or parts of self, undiscovered and waiting to be explored.
What I find interesting about this house, is that it is bigger on the inside than on the outside. Meaning that it is “bigger than it seems” and holds a lot more that you could imagine by looking at its façade. This also strikes you twice, as you even mention it to your daughter. You seem quite amazed at the fact that it looks the way it does.
If this house represents aspects of yourself.. do you think that maybe just maybe you are more than what you think you are? That inside you have this world waiting to come out, that NO ONE would ever imagine by just looking at you?
Here is what Robert Moss has to say about House Dreams: I find this quite fascinating:
“…house dreams may be a spur to find the way to reach buried memories and hidden parts of the self, including ancestral connections concealed in the root cellar of your house life” p. 87
If this were my dream, I sense that both is going on. There are ancestral, or even spirit traits in this dream, and there is the aspect of self.
The staircases may represent places you can go to see your higher self. According to Moss, you can re-enter your dream when ready and explore these mysterious places. Meditation or even asking your dream guides to go back when you are ready to explore.
Pools and water often represent the emotional self. Thinking ‘there may be an indoor pool” there may be an invitation to explore what is going on with your emotions. When was the last time you sat down to really dig deep? Maybe it was just recently and this is why the notion of an “indoor pool” emerges. Ask yourself: What does an indoor pool mean to me?
This house may exist somewhere.. maybe it exists within yourself or in a parallel world.. I bet you felt it too!
Your daughter may represent the child in you. Telling her about it awakens the mystery as children are more “in tune” with other worlds. I truly feel there were spirits in your dreams accompanying you on this journey. That is why they seemed “friendly”. It feels they are there to help you in whatever you are trying to do in your life at this time.
I feel you are very open and receptive now. The “sleepover” tells me you can take risks even though it seems scary. AND you are able to assert without getting “panicky”. Having the “pressure” eased off you from the spirit took courage and bravery. If this were my dream I think I would have freaked. You seem to have this control even though it was hard getting your words out. Just a bit of pressure sets off the alarm, and you are able to say “EFF OFF!!” Is there anything in your waking life that resembles this?
Carolyn seems to be the person you “travel” with. I am not surprised she is in your dream to give you comfort. Going down a long hallway means exploration. Needing to “pee” means release. Do you feel comfortable opening up and “releasing” with Carolyn? Maybe just maybe, this trip you are both taking is going to be “more than you expect”!
I have some very big stuff going on. Big decisions to make and lots of work to do as well. Your interpretation really hits the mark for me.
The spirits are assisting me I’m sure. I am freaked out by ghosts, can’t even watch a horror film because they really disturb me. I attribute my lack of panick to it being a spirit that knows me and means me no harm and will be gentle in opening up my eyes to whatever it is I need to see to help me through this process.
In my work I have to be assertive and I also have to hold my tongue. I’ve lost two contracts this month, major ones. I’m really pissed off about it. Both contracts have gone to the same company.
That’s what this is all about…I want to restructure the business to be big. VERY BIG! I think that ties into what you’re feeling about the house being bigger on the inside than it appears from outside.
Carolyn and I are friends from high school. She was my Maid of Honour at my wedding too many years ago. She’s a good travel companion and we’re open with each other.
Thank you again Kim!