This has always been the time of year when we give thanks for what we have. This year I feel especially grateful yet sad at the same time. In the last 2 weeks, I have watched as friends and family lost their homes and cars because of a hurricane. As I am writing this, some are still without power and living in their homes that have been flooded. The temperatures have dropped down to almost freezing some nights and they remained in their damp, cold and dark homes night after night were fearful of people looting. Contents of homes are no longer inside the houses but instead they are outside waiting to be picked up with the rest of the garbage because of flooding. Beaches, boardwalks, schools and businesses are now gone. My heart aches and I am so sad for all of those that have been affected by this and yet I’m also thankful because we were so incredibly lucky to not experience any of that type of loss. It is so hard to think about what it would be like to lose our home and cars and be displaced with 4 kids. I can’t even begin to imagine.
I’ve always had this little mantra that is quietly repeated in my head where I always remind myself that no matter how bad I think things are in my life, they could always be worse. Lately I feel nothing could be more true. When I feel like I don’t have enough, I think of people, who in fact, have less than me. On days when my kids drain every ounce of my patience from my soul, I remind myself that they are healthy and there are parents spending time in a hospital at that very moment because their child is sick or I think of the couples that want children so badly but are unable to have them. What exactly do I have to complain about? Nothing.
It isn’t what you have in your pocket that makes you thankful, but what you have in your heart. – Author Unknown
I’m sure if I asked my kids what they are thankful for, I could pretty closely guess what their answers would be: toys, computers, tv, clothes, friends and most likely our dog. I think my older ones would probably say their family too. All of those, I think, are age appropriate answers for now and I hope as they get older, and if I’ve done my job correctly as a parent, that they will have a better understanding of what is truly important in life.
So if they asked me what I was thankful for, this is what I would tell them:
- I am thankful for their smiles, hugs and kisses, as well as their cries
- I am thankful for their endless piles of laundry and dirty dishes
- I am thankful for their toys all over the house, even the LEGOS that I constantly step on
- I am thankful for them climbing into my bed at night because they want to be next to me even though I’m so uncomfortable that I can’t sleep.
- I am thankful that on the days I feel my worst, they make me smile and still see me as the best
Most of all, I am and will always be so very thankful for their love.
“You know those people that walk on broken glass? I’d like to see them walk on Legos. That would impress me.” ~Cathy Moryc Recine
Cathy Moryc Recine writes a monthly Parenting Column for Muse In The Valley. She lives in Manorville NY, with her husband and four children ages 9, 6, 4 and 2. She works as a mom, yet still finds time to enjoy the things that keep her unique. Her winning FB status of the month:
“Perhaps I have watched too much news coverage about the election. Every time the president is on tv my 2 yr old says “oMama””