#DreamFriday F.A.Q. ‘s
Dreams are mysterious, sometimes dark, and other times seem to make no sense at all. Some people dream vividly and frequently, and others rarely recall their dreams. However, everyone dreams. This is the most common question of all. The answer lies in sleep laboratories where scientists study REM and sleep, and it is YES, everyone dreams. Jeffrey Sumber, who studied global dream mythology at Harvard University states in an article for PsychCentral, that although we do not always remember our dreams, at one point, during REM dreaming is occurring. I agree with Jeffrey Sumber, we need to dream, to release stress, emotions, anxiety and fear.
We dream because our subconscious is releasing vital information we need to address.
I often receive questions from many of my clients, and friends. Who wonder why we dream, and if all dreams have a meaning. I will try to answer these to the best of my ability, and source out references if needed. Please feel free, at the end of this post, to write-up your own question or to let me know of a recent dream you have had. Maybe I can shed some light on it in a short paragraph.
What are the most common dreams?
In my experience so far, dreams which involved houses, animals, being chased, teeth falling out, and visitation dreams (when a deceased loved one comes to visit) have been the most common. However, you can visithere to see the TOP 10 most common dreams of all time.
House dreams come up often with my clients. So often, I decided to write a blog post dedicated to these types of dreams entitled: Dreams Guide you Home. Each room, corner, floor, etc.. represents a part of you, which may need exploring. I suggest you read the article for more info.
When you receive a dream in your inbox, how do you begin interpreting it? What references do you use?
The first thing I do is read the dream, one, two and even three times, before making any judgements. Then I pull out the symbolism: – For example, the other night I dreamed of one of my blue mugs broken into pieces, and those pieces were all in contained inside a Tupperware. The 3 symbols I have here are: blue mug, broken pieces, and Tupperware or container.
Once I have this information, I usually ask my client what these symbols mean to them, either in an email or FB chat etc.. I write the info down, then I may or may not check dreammoods.com for further info. Please note I do not rely on dreammoods, yet I do occasionally go there for information. They are a great source to add to the interpretation.
Coming back to my cup dream: The cup to me meant my past relationships because this was one of the few cups I brought back from my old house where I lived with my x. The Tupperware is a container, which meant the broken pieces (of my past relationships) are “contained”. Meaning, the pieces are all there, all I would have to do is either put them back together or leave them in the space they are in and deal with them when I am ready. The dream, is letting me know, that it may be time to deal with these old issues.
So there you go. This is how I interpret a dream. I read, soak it up, speak with client, research, then use my intuition and Jungian Theory on dreams to put the pieces together like a puzzle.
However, it is not always that easy. Some dreams are very complex. The interpretation can take 10 minutes or days!!
Do you use Dream Book dictionaries?
Like I mentioned before, I do, on occasion, use dreammoods.combecause they are a comprehensive source of good Jungian dream information. However, I do not own one single dream dictionary, and I do not plan on owning one. I do believe most symbols in dreams are very personal. I often use the snake example, because often people generalize and believe snakes have a “scary” meaning to the dream. However, if a snake lover has a dream about snakes, this dreamer may not be having a nightmare. Snakes mean different things to different people. So I stick with what the symbol means to the dreamer.
For an example of a snake dream see: The Bird, The Snake and The Invoice
How do you know your interpretation is right?
Well, to be honest, I don’t know. However, I can say most of my clients will tell me that I am right on the money. Most of the dreams I have posted online have a “testimonial” section. Also I have a tab on top if you wish to check out other ‘s reactions. My job is not to tell them what their dreams mean, it is more like I guide my clients towards being aware of what their dreams are telling them. Most of my clients do a lot the work themselves by answering my questions. I just give them to clues where to look. I often suggest a meaning, yet I really try to facilitate the dreamer in asking their own questions. For example:
My friend Linda Eaves had a dream where she was invited to stay at a nice relaxing home in the country. Or at least that is what she thought. However, when she arrived there were gunshots and her friend explained, yes the police were called, but the neighborhood was beyond “police service area”. So I asked:
Were you afraid? Ask yourself, now, what is going on in the back of your mind when you take time for yourself? Police often represent “authority or parents” in our dreams. Do you have a “parent” in your head calling for reason? You can read the dream here.
Do women and men dream the same?
I must admit, most of the dream interpretations I have been asked to do are for women. But I have had men tell me their dreams, and I find their dreams more aggressive, violent, and often sexual. Random History.com explain in their article 99 Random Facts About Dreams:
Men’s dreams are more often set outdoors, are more action oriented, and involve strangers more often than women’s dreams do. Women’s dreams usually happen indoors and involve emotional encounters with people they know and care about. Men are more likely than women to dream about aggression, misfortune, and negative emotions such as fear, anger, anxiety, or disgust. Women’s dreams are more often friendly and positive.
An example of a men’s dream I have interpreted: He Who Looks Inside Awakens
Should I keep a Dream Journal
I suggest to all my clients to keep a dream journal. Dream Journals kept by the bedside along with your favorite pen or pencil is a good way to manifest dreams too. The vision of the journal suggests to your subconscious you are open to dreaming. Don’t forget to write your dream right upon awakening. This is vital, as if you don’t you may lose important info as your day goes on. For example, I would have never remembered my recent mug dream if the mug wasn’t the first thing I saw when getting coffee in the morning.
Today is our lucky day. Syda Howery from Kreative Notions offers hand-made Dream Journals especially for her clients and Muse In The Valley. If you go to her site to order one, I have a secret coupon code for you: Go to the Kreative Notions Etsy Shop find your favorite Dream Journal and enter the coupon code: MITV2012 This will grant you 20% off!
One of the questions I have been exploring this year myself is paranormal/mystical dreams. Can the deceased visit us in dreams? Do we travel in dreams? Can our twin souls or soul mates travel into our dreams?
I have a few references in my dream bank, I will put the links below. However, I am reading Robert Moss’s book Dreaming The Soul Back Home, and next week’s #DreamFriday will be my comments and review on his book, which I think will answer some of these questions.
In the meantime, here are some links you may want to peruse.
If you have ANY other questions, or a dream you wish to share, please add them in the comments below.
For more information or to receive a dream reading from me go to my Intuitive Dream Readings page. Find what reading best suits you.