The Wedding Dress & The Bubble Bath
“There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won’t cure,
but I don’t know many of them.”
I am so happy to be writing up a #DreamFriday post this week. It seems like EONS since I’ve written one. Last week, our very own Lifestyle/Health Columnist, Kelly Beversdorf, sent me two dreams. This week we will focus on the first dream and next week I will follow-up with the second. Both dreams have some common threads, yet, they are also dealing with 2 different subjects.
To give you a bit of background, Kelly recently moved out on her own, and is exploring new avenues in her life. There are many decisions she needs to make and dreams she wants to achieve, all towards fulfilling her purpose. So, you will see, as both of Kelly’s dreams unfold, her true authentic self is speaking loud and clear.
Dream 1 – Rebirth
Sunday morning I woke up from having this dream that I was in a bathtub in a beautiful bathroom/closet or a boudoir. It had a place for shoes (it was filled with mens and women’d shoes…they belonged to me and the guy in the tuxedo). Clothes were hanging up, mine were on one side of this huge closet (they were on the right side of me while I was in the tub) and his were on the other side (left side of me when I was in the tub). There were folding cubby holes and windows with white sheer blinds to let natural light in, arranged for privacy. There was a sweet Victorian red bench in the room to sit on and a vanity with all my beauty stuff on it. There were 2 sinks, a 2 person shower, and of course the bathtub across the room with those cute feet on the bottom.
I’m in the tub relaxing reading a book, there are lit candles even though the sun light is coming through the windows. I’m wearing this white wedding dress while bathing with bubbles. There is a sense of excitement in the air and urgency to get somewhere, but I don’t care because there is plenty of time in my mind. I’m happy in the warm bath water and bubbles…I think I have a drink and there is music.
The guy in the tuxedo is rushing around getting dressed and he is telling me I have to get the hell out of the tub. I say “Relax there is plenty of time the sun is still up, just chill out.” He isn’t convinced so he scoops out the bubble in my bath, which makes me mad, but I just kept soaking. He finds me a towel and tells me to get out my dress is going to be ruined if I stay in there longer…everything will be all wrinkly. I look at the dress and tell him that is the look I’m going for and refuse to get out of the tub. He reaches into the water between my legs and pulls the drain plug out, that really upset me and i started to grab clothes off my shelf with my right hand( I was still sitting in the tub) and threw them at him.
He ended up looking like Cousin It from the Addams Family covered in clothes. I grab the towel to told him that I’ll get the hell out of this tub when I’m damn good and ready! He got upset and said I was going to miss out on an important day by sitting in the tub. That was touching and I got out and put on a black dress with red trim which made me look very sexy. I left the white one in the tub. I woke up
What is interesting about both these dreams, you have the yin and the yang very predominant. You also have parental figures (both your parents and the guy in the first dream). In this dream water plays a huge role, and in your next dream (next week’s post), fire is the main subject. I love to see all these opposites playing with each other, obviously seeking balance.
The bath, in dream 1, seems to represent a place where you are content and peaceful, I know you love baths. It seems to me you are in your zone in the dream. Soaking up the good vibes, doing your own thing, without any worry about what is going to happen next. You are in the present moment. Almost like a baby bathing in its mother’s womb. Warm, cosy, and worry free.
Wearing a wedding dress, in the bath (cleansing) seems to me that you are re-evaluating your relationship with yourself. You are re-defining who you are and finding your “place”. Water almost always means re-birth.
The shoes and clothes on each side of you, boy clothes (for him) and girl clothes (for you) seem to represent what you find necessary to live on. Shoes are important to you, as I see from our chat that you have many. To me they represent “grounding” as you are grounding both your male and female side. Clothes usually represent the expression of self, again, you finding balance between the yin and yang. In your present life, you are working your way through self-expression: I.E. writing, massage, Reiki and leaving home. Also, you are finding your independence and true spirit. All this is synonymous with new beginnings.
The window in this dream is letting in the light (possibilities and hopes) leaving the darkness on the outside and keeping your self private. That is a good thing.
Red bench seat: What I see here is that you are “benching” your anger. You are finally learning to forgive others slowly as you move into your new independent life. Be careful not to bench it too long. When a team player gets “benched” he/she usually gets very restless and eager to go out and play. Pay attention to your feelings, look at what angers you, and then move on.
The tuxedo guy seems to represent you male self, which may represent a fear of commitment, insecurity, and aggressiveness. He seems to have a “parental quality” about him too trying to make you do something you do not want to do. He wants to pull you out of your “happy zone” He seems to want to “ruin” your peacefulness and fun, yet he also seems in a hurry to move on. Do you feel guilty about these “new” changes in your life. Is your SuperEgo talking to you telling you that you are not worthy of this “good life” if so.. you know you are happy in your bathtub, then stay in your bathtub, BUT!! Don’t stay too long in your comfort zone, like that “benched anger” it can turn on you.
Your anger at him is obvious, it seems you do not want anyone to “burst your bubble” right now. And that’s ok.. You know how to tap into your “happy” self and deal with day-to-day ups and downs. That is where you will find balance.
In the dream you describe the excitement and urgency. I love the way you try to stay present in the bath and really ignore the “worry” (I have to be somewhere) It seems like the bath (the womb) is exactly where to be for re-birth. No one can force you to blossom, you will do that on your own.
Thy guy in you is saying: Hey, come on! Lets get moving! You can listen to him when you are ready.
You seem to be happy with “what is” right now. Not worrying about a wrinkled dress, but the GUY in you is. So again.. it’s all about balancing that out. Listening to your intuitions and doing what is right for you.
I also love how you come out of the bath and leave the wedding dress for a hotter, more sexy you! I feel a discovery is near or has already happened.
Remember! Don’t let anyone burst your bubble(s) or pull the plug on your happiness, including yourself.
I really can see how rebirth is my theme in my dreams and my “awake” life. I have moved into a new place, met some new people, started volunteering at a local animal shelter, getting back in the dating scene, and intended on balancing my work with play. Your right I do have a nagging “parental voice” in my head telling me to keep looking for a better job, apply for massage therapy scholarships, take on a weekend job, clean your room, vacuum that carpet, and THEN you can PLAY.
The list of work never ends, so my play time gets put on hold…I’m sick of it! Can that carpet wait…YES! Is that job on Indeed.com going to still be there in an hour after I take a walk. No I want to have the weekends to do what I damn well please. The voice lecture about how if I don’t go to massage therapy school RIGHT THIS MINUTE, I’ll be sorry is a load of crap. Massage therapy school will be there for me when the time is right…I’ve been given the signs that NOW isn’t the right time.
In the meantime, I’ll do some freelance writing and volunteer at an animal shelter. I am also not going to be bullied by that voice, or any other voice that is being a jerk bag to me.
I do love having shoes that are versatile with all my outfits. I need to revamp some of them or trade them in for shoes that fit me better now. Basically I’m doing that with my clothes in now too…I’m slowly revamping myself to fit who I am. I’m rediscovering myself after being under the influence of depression and anxiety: ( See Kelly’s post here ) It’s time to trade in my wrinkly clothes of the past for a hot sexy red and black dress!! Yes I can definitely see how all that makes sense with what is happening in my life at the moment.
Awesome Job Kim!!!
Don’t forget to return next week to find Kelly’s brother entering a forest fire, never to be seen.. or will we?